Hello fellow triplet moms!!
I am coming to you again…Begging for solutions or some wisdom of those who have been there already…The boys are CRAZY with this fighting stuff…They just don’t stop…ever… They are 18 months old…we started time out about a month ago and it seems to be more of a stress for me and not really helping them get it… I mean how to I comfort the hurt child and make the other child stay in timeout? THEN on top of that keep an eye on the third so that they leave said timeout child alone….HEEELLLPPPPP!!!!! 

Team Triplet

I think they might be a little young to understand time out. We didn't start until my kids were 2. I think you might need to wait a few months on the timeout idea and try again.

Lori

http://yesidohavemyhandsfull.blogspot.com/

I don't have any magical answers for you, I just wanted to say I am right there with you. At 18 months my kiddos started to get wild. I have tried the 1-2-3, then timeouts and it has worked for some things, but the major offences like hitting, biting, hair pulling, etc I haven't found anything that works yet,

Jill

www.rauckmantrio.blogspot.com/

Sept 5/08 @ 32w6d

It's nice to see I am not alone... mine just turned 19 months and yeah it's hell sometimes! Fighting and biting. I have started to do a mini time out, just moving the offender to another room or place with a big "NO!", and comfort the one who got hurt. The offender is free to come back. I can at least say that when they do something bad, they usually seem aware of that fact. Ha ha but they just do it again in no time. And... sometimes they are both at fault, a lot of times they hit or bite in self defense but you gotta remember they might be defending themselves from stealing someone's toy.

I don't have any of this figured out, that's why I describe it as hell. My daily mantra is "are they four yet?" (please, no one chime in on how sucky 4 is, I am liable to jump out the window).

Lisa
GGB born 12/26/08 @ 34 weeks
4 lb 14 oz
4 lb 12 oz
4 lb 5 oz

What we have done with our children is anything that is hurting someone else or a no-way-are-you-to-do-that behavior, they receive a swift and quick "time out"...no words...just swoop in and carry them to a take-a-break-zone. The consequence to the behavior has to happen RIGHT after the behavior so they can relate if I do this, this will happen.
I use a pack and play or a crib (my son is done napping in a crib if they still use the crib think of a different place.) I know this is going to sound mean but I am so swift with it that it startles them and they cry when I do it. They HATE it and often times they learn quick that they better not do it again. (I would kid with my husband that if they cried the more effective my approach was.)
If they don't get it the first time and they do the behavior again, same thing happens. (Sometimes behavior gets worse before it gets better.) I am consistent (or try to be) with doing this. We started this approach at about 18 months. I do ask them why they were in "time out" and tell them "we don't hit" and I leave it at that. I think as parents we are over-wordy with young kids and it goes over their heads. So I keep my lanuage to a minimum.
This is what works for us...good luck!

Cori
GBG born at 36w2d on 5/25/10
Baby A: 5lb 12oz
Baby B: 6lb 13oz
Baby C: 6lb. 1oz

The easiest way we've found to do a time out is by placing the offender in an empty pack-n-play.

Example: Teagan bit Sean's ear. I quickly scooped up Teagan, placed her in the PnP, said NO BITING! Scooped up Sean and tended to his ear. Once Sean was calm and ok, I went and got Teagan and said NO BITE and then let her go play.

I've learned long time outs don't work, they dont really get why they are there after a bit. Tending to the hurt one first doesn't work cause then the offender forgets why they are in trouble.


I hope this helps.

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THE COLL TRIPLETS BORN NOV 12, 2008 @ 34 WEEKS
BRAEDAN 4 LBS 6 OZ 8:27AM
TEAGAN 3 LBS 2 OZ 8:28AM

I haven't gotten to that point yet, but I was thinking a pack n play for a time out area. That way you don't have to keep fighting with them to stay in timeout and you can quickly take care of the hurt one. I think I'll set up a pack n play right next to their playroom, when the time comes.

Everett 5lbs 4oz
Emmett 4lbs 13oz
Emerson 4lbs 6oz born 6/30/09 33.4 weeks

www.angelaandchristew.blogspot.com

Time outs didn't mean anything when mine were that young. We did a lot of redirection when they were acting up.

The only thing that worked for me was to be out and on the go A LOT. We did a lot of trips to mall play areas, window shopping, stroller walks around lakes/walking trails, museums, zoos, aquariums,etc.

Sheila
GGB 10/29/06 (33 weeks)

At 18 months time-out was really hard for us too. The only thing we could do was hold them in our lap while we held their arms and kept repeating No, you don't bite, etc., you are in time-out. But then we were unable to comfort the hurt child unless someone else was there with me. So it was hard.

Now, that they are 2 and we have more room in our new house. I have a special high chair, different than their boosters and chairs at the table that I use as the "time out" chair. I can buckle them in if I need to. Well anyways, I pick them up, tell them what they did wrong and they are going in time-out and then put them in the high chair and face it towards the wall. They hate it. No one is aloud to give them toys or they go in time out and the other one gets out. Maybe you could go buy a cheap $20 high chair that attaches to a chair and do something similar. I have seen a big change in just a couple days. They hate being contained and not facing the others.

Megan

http://johnsontripletgirls.blogspot.com/
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One of mine hits her sister but it is sporadic. She did it for awhile, and we tried "No!", gently grabbing her arm when she went to hit and saying No, and/or telling and showing her to be gentle (which she thought was fun, but would touch gentle, gentle, then slap).

Then she magically stopped, only to start it up again. The only thing that really consistently works is to distract her, either by getting her to sing (itsy bitsy is her new favorite), or asking her to go get a toy. I'm trying again with the No and such, but then she gets mad and starts hitting me.

amy

Mom to Julia, ^Caitlin^ & Gabrielle



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